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Bittersweet Day – December 14th 2012

Yesterday was such an awesome day. My son celebrated his 18th birthday. He moved out a couple months ago, so I didn’t get to celebrate with him, but I did speak to him at midnight when he called my 16 year old daughter. It has been a long hard road to 18. He is a wonderful young man with the biggest heart. He is as stubborn and rebellious as they come. He is alive and well. For that, we are blessed.

Yesterday was a sad, sad day. Twenty children and 7 adults that were gunned down in a Connecticut elementary school. Yesterday, 22 children and 1 adult were stabbed in an elementary school in China. I can’t begin to imagine the heart wrenching devastation the friends and families must feel. I would love nothing more than to take away the excruciating pain that these parents are going through… to bring their children home, safe and sound… untouched by terror and pain.

I am scared to know what kind of drastic actions are going take place in light of this event. After the Dark Knight shooting, during which 12 were killed and 58 were injured in a Colorado movie theater, many theaters began requiring that every purse or bag be checked, as if you were entering a high security area. Not much different from the reaction after September 11th, in which 2996 people died and thereby airport security was amped up 1000%. All of the sudden, you practically needed a cavity search to board a plane. I don’t know about you, but I almost feel violated when I need to fly. I’m already reading reports on gun control and how easy it is to get a gun. That is bullshit! Twenty year old’s don’t mass murder children, kill their mothers or commit suicide because guns are accessible to them or because they had a bad day. There has obviously been something that has been overlooked.

kids drawing

Make no mistake, I am absolutely on the side of those who can not fend for themselves. However, we are diligently failing as a society. We need to stop reacting to the aftermath and start getting involved in the lives of our family and friends… our neighbors who never come out of their home… the quiet kid who doesn’t have many friends… the girl who is always “the life of the party”… the emo nerd who always wears black. It is essential to stop living disconnected lives. It takes a village to raise a child.

It is no surprise that murder and suicide is prevalent in our society. According to To Write Love On Her Arms, an organization which helps people struggling with addiction, depression, self injury, and thoughts of suicide, 18 million people suffer from depression in the US alone. Two thirds of them do not  seek treatment. This is tragic.

In a recent news article, anger, depression and hopelessness are emotional triggers leading to higher murder-suicide rates in Jacksonville, FL. Clay County Sheriff Rick Beseler said it right, “We do get warning signs, but we live in a society where we don’t want to interfere”.

Why are people so depressed and angry and hopeless? Maybe it’s because we feel like we are all alone?

If we are all alone then we are all together in that too. ~ PS I Love You

If we are all alone then we are all together in that too. ~ PS I Love You

As a society, we need to stop being cowards. We need to stop being selfish. We need to start seeing with our hearts so that we may recognize when someone needs help.  We need to learn to SPEAK so that we don’t keep our feelings bottled up inside. We need to stop giving so much space and start interacting, asking questions, reevaluating our priorities.

I am devastated about what happened yesterday, but I am sure that we can make a difference if our preventative measures start with showing another human being love and compassion rather than politics, blame and gun control.

I will be writing subsequent articles on these topics. I am sick of all the bullshit. I am sick of the lack of care and compassion. I am sick of the lack of action. Something must be done to change the way of our world today.




It is important to remember the lives that were lost…

Charlotte Bacon, 6

Daniel Barden, 7

Rachel Davino, 29

Olivia Engel, 6

Josephine Gay, 7

Ana M. Marquez-Greene, 6

Dylan Hockley, 6

Dawn Hochsprung, 47

Madeleine F. Hsu, 6

Catherine V. Hubbard, 6

Chase Kowalski, 7

Jesse Lewis, 6

James Mattioli, 6

Grace McDonnell, 7

Anne Marie Murphy, 52

Emilie Parker, 6

Jack Pinto, 6

Noah Pozner, 6

Caroline Previdi, 6

Jessica Rekos, 6

Avielle Richman, 6

Lauren Rousseau, 30

Mary Sherlach, 56

Victoria Soto, 27

Benjamin Wheeler, 6

Allison N. Wyatt, 6


2 comments on “Bittersweet Day – December 14th 2012

  1. the Healthy Habit Coach
    December 15, 2012

    Well Said!

  2. Paola Seminario
    December 15, 2012

    Thank you Tara…

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